Paraphernalia of social etiquettes have given rise to this false notion of an artificial politeness. If one has to establish genuine relationship in business or among friends one has to be sincerely polite. One has to learn how to control oneself and has to eschew pride, indifference and impatience. Indifference and impatience are two of the evil qualities that mar all social and worldly relationships. A really polite person will have this quality with all the sincerity at his command. Politeness does not mean that a person will always have to say yes to another person or will have to please the latter all the time. Far from that, politeness is indeed needed as a tool to make a refusal now and then without letting it appear disagreeable.
In fact when a person agrees to the artikel proposal of another it does not matter in which from the approval is conveyed to the latter so long as the mode of conveying is not totally disrespectful. There is therefore little scope for politeness in such a case. On the other hand politeness is really brought into play in all its magnanimity when a person has to refuse something or to safeguard his own interests. ln such situations this person has q to show and let the other feel that the artikel is disagreeing with the other on an issue that there is no real enmity or clash between them and this disagreement has nothing to do with their inherent friendship or relationship. The main ingredient of politeness therefore is sincerity and genuineness of purpose.
To be really polite one has to be interested in the other party and should be ready to help this other party outside his own involvement or aloofness in the matter. It is wrong to believe that all persons will get mad at the first encounter of opposition. There are a few hot-tempered and selfish persons no doubt. But the general of people would T like to hear a good and sympathetic word even in place of good artikel proposal, and thus we may lay down the rule. Say it with smiles and bring the same out of your heart.
GENTLENESS
In the development of one’s personality and particularly in the acquirement of correct manners, gentleness is an essential by-product. Gentleness is not the same as softness, shyness and fearfulness. lt may be quite the opposite of these. It is not unusual to find a very strong men quite gentle. There are many completely fearless men who would never get ruffled at anything and would not lose their temper at the first opportunity. Gentleness and politeness are the two sides of the same coin. One cannot be gentle without being polite and vice verse.
Gentleness however is the product of good health. A person who is in bad health is apt to be irritable and will have no patience with others. It is therefore essential that to develop ones personality one should take full care of ones health because unless one is in possession of good health one cannot have a personality which is consistent throughout. One should not also be mistaken about being in good health and having a good physique. The development of ones physique requires different types of techniques and regular practice and long hours of attention to it. To be in good health also one has to be vigilant but it is the day to-day vigilance which ensures that the person is able to lead a healthy life and is not burdened with unnecessary afflictions which may come in the way of ones life’s activities.
Thus if this first requirement is fulfilled, that is, if the person concerned is in appropriate health the artikel may then practice the good quality of gentleness which will signify that the artikel has to keep away all undesirable things and has to concern himself only with things that matter. There may be countless trifles and insignificant things which may cause dissatisfaction to him if the artikel pays attention to the same. If the artikel however keeps himself above these small matters and has his interest fixed in the important things the artikel will have a greater peace of mind without which gentleness is hard to achieve.
The object of living that is, purposeful living within human society is to avoid a row instead of getting headlong into it at the first opportunity. If one is gentle and is indifferent to the small inconveniences, there are much bigger things that one can perform and for which this life does exist. A gentle man is liked by all and in his mild way the artikel may prove to be more persuasive and more effective than the virulent gate- crasher. ” One should therefore cultivate a gentle disposition.
However, one should not sacrifice ones individuality or identity for the acquirement of gentleness. Gentleness is a mode of behavior. Some are naturally endowed with it, while others may acquire it through practice, but for the personality conscious person and to all practical persons gentleness is a means to an end rather than the end itself. One has to be sincerely gentle but one has to understand its limitations and if gentleness has had its full play and has failed in its purpose, then one has no other alternative than standing up and facing the situation boldly, but there are different gradations of boldness and one has to proceed gently in being bolder to tackle a situation.
ASSISTANCE
It is one of the elements of good manners to extend ones helping hand to another in all kinds of distress. Sometimes the distress that a man may feel may not be so prominent from outside, and no material help may be required except lip-sympathy and friendly advice. A man with manners will not therefore withhold such assistance or good counsel to another who may be in need of the same. the artikel will have patience and a sympathetic ear for such people. Even where such deep-seated assistance is required there may be small everyday assistances which a man may extend to his fellow human beings. These small acts of assistance disperse to a great extent the gloom of existence and throw light on the brightness and purity of human existence.
There are countless instances that we see every day: a blind man `waiting to cross the road, a small child bullied by a bigger one, the lady letting fall her parcel by mistake, the visitor does not know whether to pull or push the door and so the artikel cannot open it, a lady finding no place to sit in the visiting room as it is full. There may be instances which are not so short lived: the young boy in the locality comes to you to get help in math’s, the local youths elect you the chairman in their function, somebody requests you to do something on your way which is really a little out of the way, some other person requests you to request your boss for some favors and so on and so forth.
A Since a person cannot have a shut-out personality and has to live in society in active cooperation with others the artikel or she has to extend reasonable assistance to those that are in need of it. As for the small and instantaneous help that a man may render to his fellowmen in the shop, on the road in the office etc. A ready and smart response has to be built up so that the little act of kindness when done is done unsure ominously and without much ado.
Thus the blind man may be led to the other side, the ladies parcel may be picked up and handed to her, the fighting boys may be separated as one goes on ones way in life. As for the other type of assistance that is time-consuming a person has to decide for himself as to how much time the artikel is able to devote to these outside requests, and if the same person is really pressed for time the artikel can mildly refuse to take part in the social activities referred p to earlier in this paragraph. In all cases of providing assistance however one thing is to be. Remembered and that is that the person conferring some benefit to another person should do so without any apparent show or pride.
In fact when a person agrees to the artikel proposal of another it does not matter in which from the approval is conveyed to the latter so long as the mode of conveying is not totally disrespectful. There is therefore little scope for politeness in such a case. On the other hand politeness is really brought into play in all its magnanimity when a person has to refuse something or to safeguard his own interests. ln such situations this person has q to show and let the other feel that the artikel is disagreeing with the other on an issue that there is no real enmity or clash between them and this disagreement has nothing to do with their inherent friendship or relationship. The main ingredient of politeness therefore is sincerity and genuineness of purpose.
To be really polite one has to be interested in the other party and should be ready to help this other party outside his own involvement or aloofness in the matter. It is wrong to believe that all persons will get mad at the first encounter of opposition. There are a few hot-tempered and selfish persons no doubt. But the general of people would T like to hear a good and sympathetic word even in place of good artikel proposal, and thus we may lay down the rule. Say it with smiles and bring the same out of your heart.
GENTLENESS
In the development of one’s personality and particularly in the acquirement of correct manners, gentleness is an essential by-product. Gentleness is not the same as softness, shyness and fearfulness. lt may be quite the opposite of these. It is not unusual to find a very strong men quite gentle. There are many completely fearless men who would never get ruffled at anything and would not lose their temper at the first opportunity. Gentleness and politeness are the two sides of the same coin. One cannot be gentle without being polite and vice verse.
Gentleness however is the product of good health. A person who is in bad health is apt to be irritable and will have no patience with others. It is therefore essential that to develop ones personality one should take full care of ones health because unless one is in possession of good health one cannot have a personality which is consistent throughout. One should not also be mistaken about being in good health and having a good physique. The development of ones physique requires different types of techniques and regular practice and long hours of attention to it. To be in good health also one has to be vigilant but it is the day to-day vigilance which ensures that the person is able to lead a healthy life and is not burdened with unnecessary afflictions which may come in the way of ones life’s activities.
Thus if this first requirement is fulfilled, that is, if the person concerned is in appropriate health the artikel may then practice the good quality of gentleness which will signify that the artikel has to keep away all undesirable things and has to concern himself only with things that matter. There may be countless trifles and insignificant things which may cause dissatisfaction to him if the artikel pays attention to the same. If the artikel however keeps himself above these small matters and has his interest fixed in the important things the artikel will have a greater peace of mind without which gentleness is hard to achieve.
The object of living that is, purposeful living within human society is to avoid a row instead of getting headlong into it at the first opportunity. If one is gentle and is indifferent to the small inconveniences, there are much bigger things that one can perform and for which this life does exist. A gentle man is liked by all and in his mild way the artikel may prove to be more persuasive and more effective than the virulent gate- crasher. ” One should therefore cultivate a gentle disposition.
However, one should not sacrifice ones individuality or identity for the acquirement of gentleness. Gentleness is a mode of behavior. Some are naturally endowed with it, while others may acquire it through practice, but for the personality conscious person and to all practical persons gentleness is a means to an end rather than the end itself. One has to be sincerely gentle but one has to understand its limitations and if gentleness has had its full play and has failed in its purpose, then one has no other alternative than standing up and facing the situation boldly, but there are different gradations of boldness and one has to proceed gently in being bolder to tackle a situation.
ASSISTANCE
It is one of the elements of good manners to extend ones helping hand to another in all kinds of distress. Sometimes the distress that a man may feel may not be so prominent from outside, and no material help may be required except lip-sympathy and friendly advice. A man with manners will not therefore withhold such assistance or good counsel to another who may be in need of the same. the artikel will have patience and a sympathetic ear for such people. Even where such deep-seated assistance is required there may be small everyday assistances which a man may extend to his fellow human beings. These small acts of assistance disperse to a great extent the gloom of existence and throw light on the brightness and purity of human existence.
There are countless instances that we see every day: a blind man `waiting to cross the road, a small child bullied by a bigger one, the lady letting fall her parcel by mistake, the visitor does not know whether to pull or push the door and so the artikel cannot open it, a lady finding no place to sit in the visiting room as it is full. There may be instances which are not so short lived: the young boy in the locality comes to you to get help in math’s, the local youths elect you the chairman in their function, somebody requests you to do something on your way which is really a little out of the way, some other person requests you to request your boss for some favors and so on and so forth.
A Since a person cannot have a shut-out personality and has to live in society in active cooperation with others the artikel or she has to extend reasonable assistance to those that are in need of it. As for the small and instantaneous help that a man may render to his fellowmen in the shop, on the road in the office etc. A ready and smart response has to be built up so that the little act of kindness when done is done unsure ominously and without much ado.
Thus the blind man may be led to the other side, the ladies parcel may be picked up and handed to her, the fighting boys may be separated as one goes on ones way in life. As for the other type of assistance that is time-consuming a person has to decide for himself as to how much time the artikel is able to devote to these outside requests, and if the same person is really pressed for time the artikel can mildly refuse to take part in the social activities referred p to earlier in this paragraph. In all cases of providing assistance however one thing is to be. Remembered and that is that the person conferring some benefit to another person should do so without any apparent show or pride.
