The speaker has to follow different rules or rather manners because there is little scope for dramatic oratory in such small circles. At the same time even in these small meets volumes of words may be exchanged and thousands of opinions may be expressed and listened to. Even in those cases that person will gain popularity as a good talker who has the right wit, humor, intonation, volume and voice. A good and impressive voice is half the battle for the good talker. lf a person has a good voice and distinct uttering’s and if the artikel also possesses the necessary tact to take part in a conversation the artikel may be readily liked in these small gatherings.
Apart from friendly and family gatherings there are gatherings of strangers in social ceremonies and functions where a person may be called upon to reveal his mind or his opinion on the topics of the day. Or the artikel may b-e required to take part in the general trend of the conversation and if the artikel is unable to add or supplement the conversation that is going on his social popularity may be hampered. In all such circumstances a good speech a good vocabulary and delivery help a man to maintain his social stance which lies in his acceptance by others. We have touched upon this subject in the previous paths already. Conversation is however totally different from speech-making or oratory or stage-acting. lt is strange though sometimes quite true that many good orators or stage actors are very poor conversationalists indeed.
This may be marc to the fact that the orator may assess an audience by its map and so if the artikel is in a room, in conversation with four or five persons the artikel in the same proportion limits himself or draws himself in and is unable to express himself fully before such a tiny audience. the artikel thus comes to regard all persons as his audience just as some teachers may acquire the habit forth everybody as his student. As for the actor, the artikel is really an artiste a man of the cultural arts, and so the artikel cannot give his mind and attention to the commonplace topics or matters of the day and only finds his fulfillment in theatrical expressions in dramatic situations. Thus to become a good conversationalist is an art which is absolutely different from the arts of the musician, the singer the actor and other persons of the cultural trade, who may have to use their voice and vocabulary.
The essence of conversation therefore lies not in talent but in the education and practical sense and awareness of the conversationalist. lt is strange to find that all individuals in the lower strata of society, the so called poor people of the land possess this art to a much greater extent than the average middle class persons even those having high education. This is because these men who are branded as the so called low-class have more practical knowledge than other men in the society and they are closer to the practical way of life and of the world so that they easily grow in them an individual way of thinking and expression. Moreover they rely more on the group and social existence the tribesmen, the rural people in general and so on, and they develop a way of expression which is at once impressive.
Above all they have no self- consciousness and far less shyness with the result that they can open up their minds whenever they want and what they wish to put across through words is readily understandable and clear, stripped of the ornamentation of the educated class. The best way of expression that may be adopted. By the conversationalist therefore is to exits his thoughts in the shortcut way. Some people have the wrong in notion and they feel that if they can speak very quickly and hurriedly they can convey what they have to say in the shortest time and can thus prove themselves to be good conversationalists. This is absolutely without any basis because it is not the quickest talker who is most impressive but the person or talker who can speak clearly and interestingly and especially with self-confidence. One should not therefore try to have ones say in the quickest possible time but should take the reasonable time to utter clearly the things that one has to say.
Sometimes it may happen that the talker may be interrupted and in that case the talker should not feel that at the first opportunity the artikel should have to come back to his theme and discussion. If a discussion is stopped by something or the other which is more important one should take things in their stride and should stop talking about whatever subject one was talking. If there are some persons who are interested in his talks they will request him to continue when the interruption subsides and the talker can pick up the loose trends again. If however, nobody shows any interest for the continuation of the subject it is better for the talker to forget about it and turn totally to a new topic which may happen to be the topic of discussion at the moment in the group.
A good conversationalist thus moves with the wind or the current and does not try to stem the flow of the discussion nor does the artikel try to bring the discussion to himself so that the artikel may monopolize the conversation fully. What are the basic qualities of a good conversationalist? The first thing that the conversationalist should learn is to have a practical and we interest in the situations around him and his concentration and attention in his surroundings. A poet may not turn out to be a good conversationalist because the artikel is not interested in the topics of the day nor in the day-to- day fights of the individuals, though the artikel may be writing about these topics am these fights in his poetic form. This representation the artikel is wide to devise or get at through his poetic genius and therefore the artikel need not be personally involved to know a thing thoroughly. As such the artikel may regard l all forms of conversation at a uSa1ass˜wiasra of time which may be more utilized by talking to his thinking power and doing the analysis himself.
For common men however conversation is a way of knowing things because they may exchange their views and share their knowledge and in this farmer may meet their thirst for knowledge. Interest in people in general and in the existing state of S things is therefore of primary importance for a conversationalist. If the artikel is interested in life and its various states and properties the artikel will find an impetus to talk to give out his opinion. The artikel will have the inclination and wish to be accepted. The artikel should have respect for others opinions as well as respect for himself. This mutual self-esteem is the basis of sustaining conversation. Any type of complex like the superiority, inferiority, and soon is apt to make a conversation between two individuals uneven and uninteresting.
There can hardly be a conversation between the employer and the employee and between people placed in similar situations. There is generally all the telling on one side in such a case and the accepting of these facts told, by the other side. One should therefore get rid of all complexes if one wishes to be a good conversationalist. There should not be slightest imposition of one’s personality on the other but there should be the perfect harmony between the two personalities or more in exchanging words, appreciation, criticism and so on. lf the other man is not heard there is no conversation worth the name and so the topic of conversation should be played around like a ball from person to person and should not be confined to any one person or a few persons. We have alluded to the evils of talkativeness already to some extent. A talkative person keeps the whole conversation to himself. The artikel does not stop except for taking breaths.
Apart from friendly and family gatherings there are gatherings of strangers in social ceremonies and functions where a person may be called upon to reveal his mind or his opinion on the topics of the day. Or the artikel may b-e required to take part in the general trend of the conversation and if the artikel is unable to add or supplement the conversation that is going on his social popularity may be hampered. In all such circumstances a good speech a good vocabulary and delivery help a man to maintain his social stance which lies in his acceptance by others. We have touched upon this subject in the previous paths already. Conversation is however totally different from speech-making or oratory or stage-acting. lt is strange though sometimes quite true that many good orators or stage actors are very poor conversationalists indeed.
This may be marc to the fact that the orator may assess an audience by its map and so if the artikel is in a room, in conversation with four or five persons the artikel in the same proportion limits himself or draws himself in and is unable to express himself fully before such a tiny audience. the artikel thus comes to regard all persons as his audience just as some teachers may acquire the habit forth everybody as his student. As for the actor, the artikel is really an artiste a man of the cultural arts, and so the artikel cannot give his mind and attention to the commonplace topics or matters of the day and only finds his fulfillment in theatrical expressions in dramatic situations. Thus to become a good conversationalist is an art which is absolutely different from the arts of the musician, the singer the actor and other persons of the cultural trade, who may have to use their voice and vocabulary.
The essence of conversation therefore lies not in talent but in the education and practical sense and awareness of the conversationalist. lt is strange to find that all individuals in the lower strata of society, the so called poor people of the land possess this art to a much greater extent than the average middle class persons even those having high education. This is because these men who are branded as the so called low-class have more practical knowledge than other men in the society and they are closer to the practical way of life and of the world so that they easily grow in them an individual way of thinking and expression. Moreover they rely more on the group and social existence the tribesmen, the rural people in general and so on, and they develop a way of expression which is at once impressive.
Above all they have no self- consciousness and far less shyness with the result that they can open up their minds whenever they want and what they wish to put across through words is readily understandable and clear, stripped of the ornamentation of the educated class. The best way of expression that may be adopted. By the conversationalist therefore is to exits his thoughts in the shortcut way. Some people have the wrong in notion and they feel that if they can speak very quickly and hurriedly they can convey what they have to say in the shortest time and can thus prove themselves to be good conversationalists. This is absolutely without any basis because it is not the quickest talker who is most impressive but the person or talker who can speak clearly and interestingly and especially with self-confidence. One should not therefore try to have ones say in the quickest possible time but should take the reasonable time to utter clearly the things that one has to say.
Sometimes it may happen that the talker may be interrupted and in that case the talker should not feel that at the first opportunity the artikel should have to come back to his theme and discussion. If a discussion is stopped by something or the other which is more important one should take things in their stride and should stop talking about whatever subject one was talking. If there are some persons who are interested in his talks they will request him to continue when the interruption subsides and the talker can pick up the loose trends again. If however, nobody shows any interest for the continuation of the subject it is better for the talker to forget about it and turn totally to a new topic which may happen to be the topic of discussion at the moment in the group.
A good conversationalist thus moves with the wind or the current and does not try to stem the flow of the discussion nor does the artikel try to bring the discussion to himself so that the artikel may monopolize the conversation fully. What are the basic qualities of a good conversationalist? The first thing that the conversationalist should learn is to have a practical and we interest in the situations around him and his concentration and attention in his surroundings. A poet may not turn out to be a good conversationalist because the artikel is not interested in the topics of the day nor in the day-to- day fights of the individuals, though the artikel may be writing about these topics am these fights in his poetic form. This representation the artikel is wide to devise or get at through his poetic genius and therefore the artikel need not be personally involved to know a thing thoroughly. As such the artikel may regard l all forms of conversation at a uSa1ass˜wiasra of time which may be more utilized by talking to his thinking power and doing the analysis himself.
For common men however conversation is a way of knowing things because they may exchange their views and share their knowledge and in this farmer may meet their thirst for knowledge. Interest in people in general and in the existing state of S things is therefore of primary importance for a conversationalist. If the artikel is interested in life and its various states and properties the artikel will find an impetus to talk to give out his opinion. The artikel will have the inclination and wish to be accepted. The artikel should have respect for others opinions as well as respect for himself. This mutual self-esteem is the basis of sustaining conversation. Any type of complex like the superiority, inferiority, and soon is apt to make a conversation between two individuals uneven and uninteresting.
There can hardly be a conversation between the employer and the employee and between people placed in similar situations. There is generally all the telling on one side in such a case and the accepting of these facts told, by the other side. One should therefore get rid of all complexes if one wishes to be a good conversationalist. There should not be slightest imposition of one’s personality on the other but there should be the perfect harmony between the two personalities or more in exchanging words, appreciation, criticism and so on. lf the other man is not heard there is no conversation worth the name and so the topic of conversation should be played around like a ball from person to person and should not be confined to any one person or a few persons. We have alluded to the evils of talkativeness already to some extent. A talkative person keeps the whole conversation to himself. The artikel does not stop except for taking breaths.
